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|Dead. Too much bad stuff attached to this screnname. Manga coloring in my avatar is by numbmelody.|
My assignment from my therapist was to abandon the “Roses Ablaze” persona and adopt a new one. I’ve created a new screen name but for some reason I can’t quite let this one go yet. I don’t know, I guess I feel like I’m leaving loose ends untied? And don’t know how to tie them (or if I should).
I was such a mean, hateful person sometimes. I feel like I should make a public apology or something, an itemized list of all the things I’ve done wrong, but will that make things worse?
"The problem is that you don’t just choose recovery. You have to keep choosing recovery, over and over and over again. You have to make that choice 5-6 times each day. You have to make that choice even when you really don’t want to. It’s not a single choice, and it’s not easy."
I once had a guy tell me that it was a “bitch move” for me to get a boyfriend. When I asked him what he meant, he said that one of our mutual friends liked me and it upset him that I had started dating someone else. This friend had never told me or even hinted that he liked me. Apparently, I was a bitch for not reading his mind and then making all my decisions based on his feelings.
(submitted by anonymous)
"The best way to dehumanize someone while claiming you’re not is to believe you are just the same. You erase their experiences and perspective, their struggles and obstacles, their unique way of having to deal with those things in a world that also erases them. With the words, ‘but humans are humans’ or the bs dramatics of ‘we all bleed red’ normal people can simply pretend that if we all did things the way they did, then everything would work out okay. But, yes, we all bleed red but you don’t treat a papercut the same way you treat a gash, you don’t treat an infected wound the same way you treat one that isn’t, you don’t treat a wound to the leg the same way you treat a wound to the gut. You are not acknowledging someone’s personhood when you ignore the very things that make their lives different than yours, and when you refuse to understand that their circumstances have given them their own perspective that is just as valid as yours. More valid in fact – their perspective about their experiences that you haven’t been through is far more valid than anything you could ever think about it."
Truth bomb if I ever saw one.
"Men still have trouble recognizing that a woman can be complex, can have ambition, good looks, sexuality, erudition, and common sense. A woman can have all those facets, and yet men, in literature and in drama, seem to need to simplify women, to polarize us as either the whore or the angel."
I’ve reached my limit of photos for the day. Will upload the rest tomorrow. Names of the chapters the webcomics I read are currently on:
Red String: Binding Proposals
Gunnerkrigg Court: Catalyst
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